To continue, Love as a sense.
Love gives us insight to things we cannot know with our other senses. We can 'feel' when someone loves us, if we let ourselves feel it. We can also 'feel' when others don't love us, although we rationalize and deny it in so many ways if we want to.
Love can direct us to do things that don't necessarily make sense to the other 5 senses.
But this is not some 'physical' sense that can easily be defined, as can Sight, Hearing, Taste, Touch, Smell.
But there are those who are blind. Their eyes cannot 'see' the world.
And those who are deaf; their ears cannot hear sound.
Taste, Touch, Smell.....there are instances of people without these senses.
So could there be people without the sense of Love?
I believe there are. And I believe there are many people who would believe the other 5 senses over their sense of Love, so might as well be Loveblind.
We do not have common words (that I know of) for not being able to Smell or Taste or feel as in Touch. We have Blind for not being able to see and Deaf for not being able to hear. Out of the Five Senses, these two are the most well known in their absence, and the most 'affecting' of the lives of those who are afflicted with their lack. In all of the 5 senses, there are degrees of acuity, right? Some people have better hearing than others, some have 20-20 vision, some have ultra sensitivity to touch or smell or taste....
I believe there are the same variations in the sense of Love.
Love, we already know, is not an 'emotion'. It is not like anger or joy or impatience or annoyance, which can come and go. Love is there even for someone or something that is hurtful. I believe that many people experience Lust (an emotion) and think it is Love and then wonder why the 'feeling' goes away when the subject is no longer attractive. They wonder how it can be that the feeling is not reciprocated. And others are flattered by someone's lustful attentions and believe that this flattery (which causes an endorphin rush) is also love, when it is not.
We need only to look at the endorphin rush we experience when, after posting something on Facebook, we get a lot of 'likes'. This feels good, and we want it to continue, but it is not Love, it's just attention. We get a rush from positive attention. Some people get a rush from ANY kind of attention, and so can often engage in outrageous public display simply for the attention and the resultant endorphin rush. This is well understood in psychiatric and psychological studies and texts.
And this is not love, but we get the same rush from the attention of others. And so another person finding us an object of lustful desire (and here I don't necessarily mean lust in the sexual sense, but in the sense of desire of any sort) gives us this same rush of endorphins, and we want that to continue, so we encourage them by pandering to their lust.
This is not love, but we sometimes, quite often I believe, think it IS love. This is why so many relationships fail, because so many of them are not based on Love but on lust. On desire.
Love can direct us to do things that don't necessarily make sense to the other 5 senses.
But this is not some 'physical' sense that can easily be defined, as can Sight, Hearing, Taste, Touch, Smell.
But there are those who are blind. Their eyes cannot 'see' the world.
And those who are deaf; their ears cannot hear sound.
Taste, Touch, Smell.....there are instances of people without these senses.
So could there be people without the sense of Love?
I believe there are. And I believe there are many people who would believe the other 5 senses over their sense of Love, so might as well be Loveblind.
We do not have common words (that I know of) for not being able to Smell or Taste or feel as in Touch. We have Blind for not being able to see and Deaf for not being able to hear. Out of the Five Senses, these two are the most well known in their absence, and the most 'affecting' of the lives of those who are afflicted with their lack. In all of the 5 senses, there are degrees of acuity, right? Some people have better hearing than others, some have 20-20 vision, some have ultra sensitivity to touch or smell or taste....
I believe there are the same variations in the sense of Love.
Love, we already know, is not an 'emotion'. It is not like anger or joy or impatience or annoyance, which can come and go. Love is there even for someone or something that is hurtful. I believe that many people experience Lust (an emotion) and think it is Love and then wonder why the 'feeling' goes away when the subject is no longer attractive. They wonder how it can be that the feeling is not reciprocated. And others are flattered by someone's lustful attentions and believe that this flattery (which causes an endorphin rush) is also love, when it is not.
We need only to look at the endorphin rush we experience when, after posting something on Facebook, we get a lot of 'likes'. This feels good, and we want it to continue, but it is not Love, it's just attention. We get a rush from positive attention. Some people get a rush from ANY kind of attention, and so can often engage in outrageous public display simply for the attention and the resultant endorphin rush. This is well understood in psychiatric and psychological studies and texts.
And this is not love, but we get the same rush from the attention of others. And so another person finding us an object of lustful desire (and here I don't necessarily mean lust in the sexual sense, but in the sense of desire of any sort) gives us this same rush of endorphins, and we want that to continue, so we encourage them by pandering to their lust.
This is not love, but we sometimes, quite often I believe, think it IS love. This is why so many relationships fail, because so many of them are not based on Love but on lust. On desire.
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